Three years ago my dad had a seizure (yes, this is relevant to your post) in the middle of the night, and while trying to figure that out, it was discovered that he had cancer (he's now fine and clear). As I'd just been told that my contract was not going to be renewed and I'd be out of a job in 3-4 weeks plus that the project that I was working on was being shit-canned when this news hit, I requested that I push this remaining time so I could go to Phoenix and take care of my parents while my dad couldn't drive.
While I'm there, one of my cousins comes to town. Late one night I'm playing World of Warcraft with my wife who's still in NM, and I overhear my mom and cousin having a kitchen chat, not being able to comprehend why my mom has a granddaughter who's gay (was planning on marrying her GF later that year, but that fell apart) and cousin had a daughter who was gay). Suddenly they came up with the theory that it was sexual assault or abuse that turned them away from men and to women.
I couldn't take it. I went in to the kitchen and told them that almost every girlfriend that I'd had prior to my wife (and including her, but I didn't tell them that) had been the victim of sexual assault of one kind or another. None of them were lesbians. I didn't tell them that one or more of them had bi tendencies as that would lead to speculation. Needless to say I didn't give them any names.
Fortunately none of my exes seemed to have any PTSD from their violations, or if they did they've dealt with it and recovered from it. But it is so damn appalling that there is so much sexual violence!
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While I'm there, one of my cousins comes to town. Late one night I'm playing World of Warcraft with my wife who's still in NM, and I overhear my mom and cousin having a kitchen chat, not being able to comprehend why my mom has a granddaughter who's gay (was planning on marrying her GF later that year, but that fell apart) and cousin had a daughter who was gay). Suddenly they came up with the theory that it was sexual assault or abuse that turned them away from men and to women.
I couldn't take it. I went in to the kitchen and told them that almost every girlfriend that I'd had prior to my wife (and including her, but I didn't tell them that) had been the victim of sexual assault of one kind or another. None of them were lesbians. I didn't tell them that one or more of them had bi tendencies as that would lead to speculation. Needless to say I didn't give them any names.
Fortunately none of my exes seemed to have any PTSD from their violations, or if they did they've dealt with it and recovered from it. But it is so damn appalling that there is so much sexual violence!