A note about my not-a-journal

[lydy]

I don't really use LJ as a journal, just so y'all know. I treat it more as an APA, or something. It's a place for essays, and occasional entries about things in my life. But it's not a day-to-day thing. You probably noticed that part already, though.

The other thing is, I don't read other people's LJs very often. I'm sorry if you think I'm being rude. If you issue invitations or make major announcements on LJ, you can be pretty certain that I haven't seen them. Friends may or may not remember to mention these things to me.

I feel excluded, sometimes. Of course, people who set up social events and announce important information using LJ usually feel like I'm not really interested in them. On the other hand, turn about is fair play. When I was heavily involved in r.a.s.f.f., a lot of people who didn't participate felt excluded by the conversations of people who were involved. There are really endless possibilities for miscommunication, almost as many as there are in face-to-face.

If there's something interesting on someone's LJ, or something you want to be sure I know, you could always drop me email. Not that I'm anything like a stellar correspondent, but I almost always read my e-mail.

So, just so that you know. I'm not actually ignoring you in particular. I'm just ignoring you in general.

Comments

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

Or we could actually arrange to have that Pannekoeken I've been half-assedly mentioning for three months now, or we could go to Tejas as I've been half-assedly muttering about for...um. Let's not contemplate how long on that one.

Of course, that would probably involve preliminary e-mails, too.

[minnehaha.livejournal.com]

I think APAs are as chatty as LJ, at least the ones I was in, and the ones I best liked. No doubt what I liked colored my experience.

K. [do you really think a email saying "there's something interesting in [this] LJ" would make a difference in how much LJ you have time for?]

[davidschroth.livejournal.com]

Well, I don't ever take it particularly personally.

I'm happy to read your posts when you do post, and I often wonder what's going on with you when you don't.

I try to remember to send interesting stuff to events, on the theory that some people who don't read LJ regularly might be more inclined to read e-mail from events. But I have no evidence to corroborate (or disprove) the theory, so I mostly do it on hope. And I'll admit I don't always remember to send stuff to events in a timely fashion.

I hope you're well, and that things are going well with you.

[pir-anha.livejournal.com]

I'm not actually ignoring you in particular. I'm just ignoring you in general.

thanks. no, i mean it. :)

there's never enough time to do all the things one would want to do if there were enough time. no sweat; i enjoy the occasional post you make, whether or not you have time, energy, or interest to reciprocate.

[lydy.livejournal.com]

I'm liking this email plan. Maybe I should start, this time. Anybody else want to come? If you respond, LJ will send me email.

[lydy.livejournal.com]

I think that APAs is the wrong term. Personal Zine? I don't know. Column? Narcissistic blog? I'm not writing to initiate conversation. I'm interested in feedback, often enough. Or arguing the specific points I've raised. I really hate LJs interface, though. I'd be hard-pressed to explain why, but I do truly hate it. It makes me feel stupid, the same way that Google Groups makes me feel stupid. I never feel like I know "where" I am. I feel like I'm constantly struggling to find my place in the thread. Mailing lists are a little better. But the thing that's always worked best for me was newsgroups.

An email saying "look at this" wouldn't make a difference in how much time I had, per se, but it would mean that I'd be likely to go and look at it rather than do something else. The thing with LJ is that there's no way I've found to filter for the stuff that I find interesting. Even the most fascinating people don't have consistently fascinating LJs. There's also the politics of "friending" and "un-friending" people, which I find incredibly distasteful. To me, it seems like it has the potential for huge disaster.

[lydy.livejournal.com]

I only just recently found out that I need to re-subscribe to Events. Guess the announcement was made in LJ, but not even DDB thought to mention it. When I told him that I was surprised, he looked at me like I'd lost my mind and said, "Don't you remember when the server melted?" Oblivious, thy name is Lydy.

At any rate, if you'd put something on events, recently, I won't have seen it, either. :-)

[lydy.livejournal.com]

Arghhh. How could you have done this to me?

But there never seems to be enough time
To do the things you want to do
Once you find them

My god. "Time in a Bottle" was (to my great distress) my high school's graduation class's "class song." And now that sucker will be in my head for hours and hours.

"Punch, punch, punch with care
"Punch in the presence of the passenger."

You are evil.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

Let's just figure out a time and plan, and relevant other people can join us if they are both willing and able. I could have lunch tomorrow, or dinner, or I could have dinner Tuesday or Wednesday, just to start out the week. I can go farther out than that with scheduling, but mostly it's "dunno yet, you can claim a time if you want it."