Who Sawed Courtney's Boat
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lydyI would like to make an argument for the faanish in-joke. Several people have spoken passionately about the way in which fandom is too clique-ish and how our use of in-jokes excludes new comers.
I think they're wrong.
In-jokes are not a bad thing. They are not a way of excluding people. They are the inevitable and necessary product of building a community. Every community develops its own in-jokes, its own short hand, and the difference between one and the other is, especially in fandom, constantly being blurred. Our sense of humor, our love of the verbal dance, makes this inescapable.
I worked as a secretary in the Bone Marrow Transplant office a while ago. As is common in every medical field, most patients were referred to by their disease, not their name. This led to conversations which I found hilarious.
"This is the fifth breast this week. What is this, a fire sale on breasts?"
"I don’t know what it is, we seem to have breasts coming out of the walls."
"I don’t know what it is with all these breasts. They’re so crabby."
"Jane has three breasts today. I don’t know how she’s going to manage them all."
"We just had two breasts walk in together. I don’t know how we can fit them both in." [I asked where was the bar.]
"Jane isn’t going to be in on the 20th. Do you think George could handle a breast?" (By the way, George handled the breast just fine. He said later, "I just said breast every time I wanted to say CML.")
If you're me, you're laughing. If you're one of the nurses or secretaries, you're staring at me trying to figure out what the joke is. And if I tell you, you'll look at me a bit puzzled, and say, "But, that's just an abbreviation." These are smart, wise, clever people, but they don't know who sawed Courtney's boat.
That damn boat. You know, I'd been in fandom fifteen years before I heard someone say it? I thought, yet one more oddity to stack up on all the other oddities when talking to fen. Hey, what's another spot to a leopard. (And this, if you were in SFLIS at the right time, is in in-joke. It's also boring, so I won't bother you with the story.)
In-jokes. In-jokes are metastasized shop talk. These days, we fen say, "I'm just explaining to be polite." That was a fascinating insight nine years ago. These days, it's an in-joke, and most of us don't even know it. It's an abbreviation for a concept.* More than shop talk, in-jokes are part of what bind a community together. In-jokes that are intended to be excluding are the ones that people won't to explain. Of fandom's many faults, this is not one. Ask us a question and we'll try to answer. Ask us about an in-joke and you'll get a disquisition which goes all the way back to Hugo Gernsback. TMI, thy name is fandom.
Remember Amalgamated Spleen? (Another Minicon reference, they've since moved to CONvergence, and I don't know if they're still functioning. I hope so.) As I understood their sales rep. (and I may not have), the thing started off as an in-joke with him and a couple of his friends. Then they put up a huge number of extremely clever posters all over Minicon, and the posters were admired, collected, pointed out, complimented, and were generally just a gas. Total smashing success. An in-joke that metastasized. They kept it up for a couple of years, developed contracts and donation cards, it was great, it was clever, and it had staying power. These days, where I hang out, they are a fond remembrance.
What is the real difference between a fond reminisce and an in-joke? Near as I can tell, the difference is that a reminisce is longer. If you're standing around talking with people, and say, "Remember the con where Madman dove into the shallow end of the pool, twice? Second time, we had to run him to the hospital. Seventeen stitches, wasn't it?" and your companion nods and laughs, how different is this from saying "Yeah, but who sawed Courtney's boat, anyway?" in response to a comment about the oddness of the English language. Lime jello is an in-joke, but it's about a dozen different jokes, near as I can tell. I've heard more stories about why lime jello is funny as a leopard has spots. Can it be an in-joke if people don't even know which joke they're telling?
These are the words that bind. These are the ways that we find and hold each other. And this is the mistake I made during our Boskone-style melt-down. This is the divide that I helped create. I wanted people to learn my in-jokes, but I never asked them about theirs. I didn't care to learn them, and some of them seemed to me to be heresy, replacing one of my words with one of theirs. I was protecting the purity of the language against the Vandals and Visigoths.
Having in-jokes isn't exclusionary. Not wanting to know someone else's is exclusionary. In hind sight, I can't imagine how I missed it. We were in the same pickle. They wanted us to understand them, we wanted them to understand us, they wanted control over the language and the jokes, we wanted control over the language and the jokes.
This is an incredibly simplistic view of the melt-down, by the way.
To sum up, in-jokes are important, and most fan feuds are about semantics. So there. That's what I've learned in the last ten years.**
I do hope you'll correct me, if only to be polite. :-)
*At Minicon 34 or so, Elise Mattheson's sister, who specializes in language work with autistic children (I think I've got that right), gave an speech in which she described and demonstrated characteristics of the fannish lect. (Kind of like a dialect, only much smaller.) One of the things that she said was that in the rest of the world, if your response to someone's statement is to correct them, then their response will be dismay. They will feel as if they're being lectured or publicly embarrassed. If you do it to a fan, most likely the fan will say, "Thank you, that's what I meant," and move on. The phrase started out as "I'm just correcting you to be polite." These days, we also say "just explaining." I'm pretty sure that most of us use it without realizing that, out of context, it is probably bewildering, and possibly rude.
Fans are often thought to over-explain.
**This post subject to editing as people convince me that I'm wrong. Full retraction is possible but unlikely.
I think they're wrong.
In-jokes are not a bad thing. They are not a way of excluding people. They are the inevitable and necessary product of building a community. Every community develops its own in-jokes, its own short hand, and the difference between one and the other is, especially in fandom, constantly being blurred. Our sense of humor, our love of the verbal dance, makes this inescapable.
I worked as a secretary in the Bone Marrow Transplant office a while ago. As is common in every medical field, most patients were referred to by their disease, not their name. This led to conversations which I found hilarious.
"This is the fifth breast this week. What is this, a fire sale on breasts?"
"I don’t know what it is, we seem to have breasts coming out of the walls."
"I don’t know what it is with all these breasts. They’re so crabby."
"Jane has three breasts today. I don’t know how she’s going to manage them all."
"We just had two breasts walk in together. I don’t know how we can fit them both in." [I asked where was the bar.]
"Jane isn’t going to be in on the 20th. Do you think George could handle a breast?" (By the way, George handled the breast just fine. He said later, "I just said breast every time I wanted to say CML.")
If you're me, you're laughing. If you're one of the nurses or secretaries, you're staring at me trying to figure out what the joke is. And if I tell you, you'll look at me a bit puzzled, and say, "But, that's just an abbreviation." These are smart, wise, clever people, but they don't know who sawed Courtney's boat.
That damn boat. You know, I'd been in fandom fifteen years before I heard someone say it? I thought, yet one more oddity to stack up on all the other oddities when talking to fen. Hey, what's another spot to a leopard. (And this, if you were in SFLIS at the right time, is in in-joke. It's also boring, so I won't bother you with the story.)
In-jokes. In-jokes are metastasized shop talk. These days, we fen say, "I'm just explaining to be polite." That was a fascinating insight nine years ago. These days, it's an in-joke, and most of us don't even know it. It's an abbreviation for a concept.* More than shop talk, in-jokes are part of what bind a community together. In-jokes that are intended to be excluding are the ones that people won't to explain. Of fandom's many faults, this is not one. Ask us a question and we'll try to answer. Ask us about an in-joke and you'll get a disquisition which goes all the way back to Hugo Gernsback. TMI, thy name is fandom.
Remember Amalgamated Spleen? (Another Minicon reference, they've since moved to CONvergence, and I don't know if they're still functioning. I hope so.) As I understood their sales rep. (and I may not have), the thing started off as an in-joke with him and a couple of his friends. Then they put up a huge number of extremely clever posters all over Minicon, and the posters were admired, collected, pointed out, complimented, and were generally just a gas. Total smashing success. An in-joke that metastasized. They kept it up for a couple of years, developed contracts and donation cards, it was great, it was clever, and it had staying power. These days, where I hang out, they are a fond remembrance.
What is the real difference between a fond reminisce and an in-joke? Near as I can tell, the difference is that a reminisce is longer. If you're standing around talking with people, and say, "Remember the con where Madman dove into the shallow end of the pool, twice? Second time, we had to run him to the hospital. Seventeen stitches, wasn't it?" and your companion nods and laughs, how different is this from saying "Yeah, but who sawed Courtney's boat, anyway?" in response to a comment about the oddness of the English language. Lime jello is an in-joke, but it's about a dozen different jokes, near as I can tell. I've heard more stories about why lime jello is funny as a leopard has spots. Can it be an in-joke if people don't even know which joke they're telling?
These are the words that bind. These are the ways that we find and hold each other. And this is the mistake I made during our Boskone-style melt-down. This is the divide that I helped create. I wanted people to learn my in-jokes, but I never asked them about theirs. I didn't care to learn them, and some of them seemed to me to be heresy, replacing one of my words with one of theirs. I was protecting the purity of the language against the Vandals and Visigoths.
Having in-jokes isn't exclusionary. Not wanting to know someone else's is exclusionary. In hind sight, I can't imagine how I missed it. We were in the same pickle. They wanted us to understand them, we wanted them to understand us, they wanted control over the language and the jokes, we wanted control over the language and the jokes.
This is an incredibly simplistic view of the melt-down, by the way.
To sum up, in-jokes are important, and most fan feuds are about semantics. So there. That's what I've learned in the last ten years.**
I do hope you'll correct me, if only to be polite. :-)
*At Minicon 34 or so, Elise Mattheson's sister, who specializes in language work with autistic children (I think I've got that right), gave an speech in which she described and demonstrated characteristics of the fannish lect. (Kind of like a dialect, only much smaller.) One of the things that she said was that in the rest of the world, if your response to someone's statement is to correct them, then their response will be dismay. They will feel as if they're being lectured or publicly embarrassed. If you do it to a fan, most likely the fan will say, "Thank you, that's what I meant," and move on. The phrase started out as "I'm just correcting you to be polite." These days, we also say "just explaining." I'm pretty sure that most of us use it without realizing that, out of context, it is probably bewildering, and possibly rude.
Fans are often thought to over-explain.
**This post subject to editing as people convince me that I'm wrong. Full retraction is possible but unlikely.
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Date: 2007-03-03 11:14 pm (UTC)The trigger for this was probably what you said here: "Having in-jokes isn't exclusionary. Not wanting to know someone else's is exclusionary." Maybe the way I found fandom was that the sheer delight of discovering others who loved word play and weird humor made me want to join, automatically. Nowadays social boundaries are looser in some ways (MTV as homogenizing force? Also, I'm no longer a teenager), so that the act of simply finding a like-minded group isn't enough to make me want to join in.
Good post, and good conversation. It ties in with my (as yet unwritten) article on the roof as the introduction and how that works in fandom. (And then there the so many ideas in my head, and so few of them in actual words.)
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Date: 2007-03-04 02:05 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-03-06 12:14 am (UTC)