A new annoyance

[lydy]

There's an argument that idiots use when arguing about whether or not homosexuality is a bad thing, unnatural, etc., that totally drives me spare. It's the argument that homosexuals do not have children. This argument is usually in conjunction with the argument that homosexuality is not genetic, but rather a choice, since it could not possibly be passed on in the genes.

To which I want to say, "Hello! Sitting right here! Eldest of four, and my father was a homosexual. What the fuck are you talking about?"

The idea that homosexuals don't have children is weirdly, massively wrong. Quite aside from the various technological possibilities now available, I suspect that homosexuals have been busy having kids since as long as there were, you know, people. There is the incredible social pressure to marry and have kids. Many people have married and procreated with people they didn't particularly care for. Some of them were homosexual. And the drive to have children isn't tied to sexual orientation. Lots of people have had sex with partners they didn't particularly care for in order to procreate. This is one more way to try to ignore the real, lived complexity of people's lives. And it attempts to erase me. Which really, really pisses me off.

Comments

[mplsfish.livejournal.com]

My father is also gay. I didn't find out until I was in my 30's. The two wives threw me off.

I'd love to compare impressions with you on that topic some time.

[bibliofile.livejournal.com]

...or another person I know, with a couple of siblings and divorced parents, whose dad's own "roommate" kinda rolls his eyes at the dad's elision of their partnership in casual conversation. (I met them once.)

And don't get me started about married men-and-women who have NO KIDS, it's UNNATURAL I TELL YA. [high five]

[lydy.livejournal.com]

I was 18. The revelation was, um, memorable. Catch me in person some time, we'll compare notes.