The Rules, They Are A-Changin'

[lydy]

So, one of the things I think is going on in my community is that younger people, mostly but not entirely women, are coming to the community with a different set of standards of behavior and stronger personal boundaries. And older people, like me, largely but not entirely women, are saying, "Wait, wait! That's an _option_? Cool. Sign me up. I will take a double-order of nope with that tasty, tasty no sauce drizzled all over, thanks."

And this is confusing for some people. While they might have been comfortable with simply treating the newer cohort differently, all of a sudden here are these people they've known for thirty years that want to be treated differently, too. And suddenly they're vocal and insistent. That's gotta feel like somebody changed the rules on them.

Of course, one could also argue that we're just asking that the rules from the 1970s actually be enforced, for a change. I mean, it's only been forty fucking years. Can I have my autonomy, now?

Kthnxbye.

Comments

[ctein3.livejournal.com]

Dear Lydy,

You have to stop writing interesting posts like this. You are interfering with my ability to meet my deadlines.

This is on your head. If you flaunt your intellectual allures like that in front of normal men like me, you know how we're going to react to them. You know we can't help it.

So, yes, this is your fault. You should know better.


love (of course!), Ctein

[lydy.livejournal.com]

There is, in fact, nothing normal about you, my dear.