BtVS: Why I hate Angel
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lydyThis is a rant I've been meaning to have for a while. I'm obsessed with Buffy the Vampire Slayer
and somewhat less so with Angel. (All my friends may now laugh themselves sick. I've spent years of their lives explaining how I didn't need to see Buffy to know it was an intolerable piece of trash. Ok, friends. You've had your laugh. Now shut up.)
I would like to say that I really, truly hate Angel. Always and forever Angel. I can forgive him for Angelus. Indeed, I found Boreanaz rather better looking and more interesting when he played Angelus. But Angel? My good lords! He abandons the woman who he believes is his true love, not once, but twice. The first time, he tells her it is "for her own good", which translates as "all your fault." Buffy's too young to understand that he's lying, too young to understand that he's running away, not being noble. What he does at the end of Season Three is a travesty. Gods save me forever from people doing things "for my own good." He refuses to allow her to have any part in the decision, and then blames it on her! And as I said, she's too young to catch at him it. Even on the most basic level, he thinks that she's old enough to sleep with, but not old enough to deal with the consequences of that action. That is unacceptable. We call it statutory rape in the law. While I'm not a fan of the stat rape laws, it is precisely that sort of situation that the laws are supposed to address. I think that Buffy was old enough to make the decision, and old enough to deal with the consequences.
He abandoned her a second time when he asked TPTB to turn him back into a vampire. Again, I think it was because he was afraid. I think he was especially afraid of being involved with a girl who could kick his ass. His argument to the effect that it would improve her life expectancy sounded false to me. Once again, he didn't involve her in the decision, which is flatly wrong, surely. He says he loves her, but insists on making all the decisions? How on earth does anyone, even a vampire, shelter the Chosen One? So, he wins on stupid, as well. There is also this: he remembers having had one perfect day. As painful as such a memory can be, it is still a priceless one, and he stole it from her. He can remember, but she cannot. Remember why she showed up in the first place? To yell at him for precisely that behavior, to tell him how much it hurt for him to be able to see her, but for her to not be able to see him, for him to have the right to make those decisions without including her. His choice to turn back time is like that, cubed.
Season Five of Angel, he's working in a company with the most comprehensive library of spells and curses. Does he bother to turn one lone researcher loose on the question of whether or not it would be possible to remove his curse? He does not. He is on tolerably good terms with Willow, one of the most powerful witches in the Western Hemisphere. Does he ever, once, ask Willow if she would try reverse-engineering his curse to see what could possibly be done so that he and Buffy really could have a future together? He does not. He makes absolutely no effort whatsoever to find a way to be with Buffy, no effort to create a world in which they can love. If this is true love, give me casual friendship.
Here's the thing. One of Joss's constant themes is that redemption is always possible. Always. Even Spike. Even Andrew. Angel is offered, over and over again, not merely redemption, but happiness, and he turns it down every time. He looks for the most difficult, the most painful way to proceed. This is artificial angst, this is false pride, it is fake martyrdom, and while he's welcome to every bit as much of it as he can swallow, he never seems to care how much it hurts other people, especially not how much he hurts Buffy. He acts as if Buffy's pains belong to him, so if he can manage to grieve both of them, he gets double points on the pain-o-meter. However, redemption isn't bought by pain. It's a free gift. It's the result of repentence, and pain is often a consequence, but it is not the cost.
Love hurts, and gods know you always hurt the one you love, but it's not a goal, dammit. Love will take care of that all by itself, it doesn't need your help.
and somewhat less so with Angel. (All my friends may now laugh themselves sick. I've spent years of their lives explaining how I didn't need to see Buffy to know it was an intolerable piece of trash. Ok, friends. You've had your laugh. Now shut up.)
I would like to say that I really, truly hate Angel. Always and forever Angel. I can forgive him for Angelus. Indeed, I found Boreanaz rather better looking and more interesting when he played Angelus. But Angel? My good lords! He abandons the woman who he believes is his true love, not once, but twice. The first time, he tells her it is "for her own good", which translates as "all your fault." Buffy's too young to understand that he's lying, too young to understand that he's running away, not being noble. What he does at the end of Season Three is a travesty. Gods save me forever from people doing things "for my own good." He refuses to allow her to have any part in the decision, and then blames it on her! And as I said, she's too young to catch at him it. Even on the most basic level, he thinks that she's old enough to sleep with, but not old enough to deal with the consequences of that action. That is unacceptable. We call it statutory rape in the law. While I'm not a fan of the stat rape laws, it is precisely that sort of situation that the laws are supposed to address. I think that Buffy was old enough to make the decision, and old enough to deal with the consequences.
He abandoned her a second time when he asked TPTB to turn him back into a vampire. Again, I think it was because he was afraid. I think he was especially afraid of being involved with a girl who could kick his ass. His argument to the effect that it would improve her life expectancy sounded false to me. Once again, he didn't involve her in the decision, which is flatly wrong, surely. He says he loves her, but insists on making all the decisions? How on earth does anyone, even a vampire, shelter the Chosen One? So, he wins on stupid, as well. There is also this: he remembers having had one perfect day. As painful as such a memory can be, it is still a priceless one, and he stole it from her. He can remember, but she cannot. Remember why she showed up in the first place? To yell at him for precisely that behavior, to tell him how much it hurt for him to be able to see her, but for her to not be able to see him, for him to have the right to make those decisions without including her. His choice to turn back time is like that, cubed.
Season Five of Angel, he's working in a company with the most comprehensive library of spells and curses. Does he bother to turn one lone researcher loose on the question of whether or not it would be possible to remove his curse? He does not. He is on tolerably good terms with Willow, one of the most powerful witches in the Western Hemisphere. Does he ever, once, ask Willow if she would try reverse-engineering his curse to see what could possibly be done so that he and Buffy really could have a future together? He does not. He makes absolutely no effort whatsoever to find a way to be with Buffy, no effort to create a world in which they can love. If this is true love, give me casual friendship.
Here's the thing. One of Joss's constant themes is that redemption is always possible. Always. Even Spike. Even Andrew. Angel is offered, over and over again, not merely redemption, but happiness, and he turns it down every time. He looks for the most difficult, the most painful way to proceed. This is artificial angst, this is false pride, it is fake martyrdom, and while he's welcome to every bit as much of it as he can swallow, he never seems to care how much it hurts other people, especially not how much he hurts Buffy. He acts as if Buffy's pains belong to him, so if he can manage to grieve both of them, he gets double points on the pain-o-meter. However, redemption isn't bought by pain. It's a free gift. It's the result of repentence, and pain is often a consequence, but it is not the cost.
Love hurts, and gods know you always hurt the one you love, but it's not a goal, dammit. Love will take care of that all by itself, it doesn't need your help.
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I love it.
Date: 2011-10-07 04:15 pm (UTC)And don't get me started on the things I can't forgive Angel for. Like you, I totally forgive him for Angelus. Actually, I adore Angelus! But Angel... He left her in season 3, just after she graduated high school, basically having to start a new stage in her life. She needed his support and he wasn't there for her. THEN the "I Will Remember You" thing. I never forgave him for turning back the day. He should have talked to her about it. It was her life and her memories being tampered with! Then the Faith thing. What Faith did to Buffy when she came out of her coma was awful. And Angel didn't even hear Buffy's side of the story. All Faith had to say was that Buffy had a new boyfriend and that pretty much sealed it that Angel would protect Faith from Buffy. The Irony? Buffy wanted to go after Faith for stealing her body. Not to mention threatening her mother, sleeping with her boyfriend, and trying to hurt her friends. In season 3, same thing happens to Angel. Only he just gets his body taken. What does he do? He lets the guy who stole his body die! He wouldn't even let Buffy hit Faith, and even HITS HER, the woman he's supposed to "LOVE", to protect someone who hurt her, and when the same things happens to him, he lets the guy die, not lifting a finger to get him help for his heart attack. Not that there was much he could do but still. Angel is a jerk, undeserving of Buffy's love.
Also, to the trolls, get over it. No one made you come here and read this.
Ignore the stupid trolls. There's always going to be someone telling us we're weird or to get a life just because we're really into something they are not. That's just how some jerk offs work. But who do you think really needs a life: The people responding appropriately to a topic, or the people taking time out of their day to come here and make fun of us for a discussion that has nothing to do with them? Lol